Even in the US, the citadel of modernity as we Indians see it, men seem to have imprinted in their minds as a footprint in cement that the pretty little wife is perennially in apron strings baking the apple pie and dropping the babies to school, doing the washing, with the permanent vacuum cleaner and mop -displaying proudly the shining clean toilet seat and sink of the bathroom. 

They study hard to get somewhere and have much ambition to start with. In nuclear families today, where both partners venture out to employment increasingly women have nudged the traditional mindset of men incorporating them into some feasible partnership in the home hearth and children responsibility. Never mind their global exposure to education, capabilities and their abilities to fit the high echelons of the corporate world as this young lady was.Should love and marriage become all about being obsessed with running the house? This can drain you from other creative pursuits. He also boils the drinking water, and personally washes their school going sons white shirts to get them that perfect white.

Women today, especially the younger lot have flung age old traditions to the breezes.The corollary to this however, is that men seem to have a fixed image of the ‘wife’ as the ‘homemaker’ and entirely responsible for ‘running’ a home and all the added responsibilities of children, washing machine, putting food on the table and keeping out the slippers by the armchair with the TV remote and a cup of tea in the evening. 

Cube vacuum storage bag Men seem to have a fixed image of the ‘wife’ as the ‘homemaker’ and entirely responsible for ‘running’ home and all added responsibilities.Certainly in Mumbai I am seeing change creep in, I know a young man who creates a beautiful breakfast for a wife who sleeps in late in the mornings and then she whizzes off to her office because he is self-employed and supervises the maid and the house cleaning.The writer is a columnist, designer and brand consultant.

Girls are go getters with intelligence, they are smart, intelligent, and look forward to a life of more than just home and hearth. It does seem strange to the thinking mind that this should be so. They still have huge expectations from women in a marriage, to run a home, run the children, run the laundry, run everything first before running their own dreams and desires. 

 It is astounding that even modern women are still accepting outmoded roles and women still have to fight for equal rights and shared responsibilities, for a partnership that defines a marriage. A modern trendy lady in hot pants answered to a query "umm I’m actually just a housewife” half apologetically accepting the eons old traditional mindset that women are of course to be relegated to the role of homemakers.com. 

The senior journalist well known for his traditional attire of khadi kurta pajama, Kolhapuri chappals and bald pate, defining his seniority surprised us with his take. Never mind that she has also come back from a demanding day at her place of employment. She comes home and takes over the dinner quotient, but at least it’s a fair bargain. Mail her at nishajamvwal@gmail.” He has seen the picture as it is with his vast exposure, relevant to the realities around. And she is the main bread winner too in some cases, and even more accomplished perhaps. This is a partnership. For a wife to be dumped with the entire load of the home is not really how women see marriage today. 

This husband is more an exception than a rule, but this is how it should be done. But it is a fact that men are more often left far behind in the culture mindset wagon.Further research shows me that this is not only an Indian scenario. We were at a swish dinner with a senior esteemed editor on the table. Should it just end up in a life of housekeeping?We are living in a transitional age, where both things coexist, change is indeed happening

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